You cannot give what you do not have!

It is so easy to say “I love you”, “ I care for you” etc, but do we really know what it takes to truly love and care for another. This is something a lot of us are not aware of. You truly cannot give what you do not have, it doesn’t matter what that is. We only give from the abundance of that which we already have. When you give what you do not have, you feel depleted and have expectations of receiving something in return. This is conditional even though it is not clearly stated.

To correct this, the first thing to do is to give yourself that which you want to give. Say you want to love and care for another, first do it for yourself. Bathe yourself with love and when you feel the love for yourself overflow, then you can share your love with another. You will be giving from your overflow with no strings attached. There are no expectations because you give from your abundance and therefore it is out of choice. This is the best gift you can give to yourself and others. Take care of yourself first before you can take care of the next person.

If you don’t know how to take care of yourself, how will you be able to take care of the other. In any relationship it is important that the parties come with cups that runneth over for the relationship to blossom. If the parties come with half cups, clearly there will be underlying expectations that one party must fill the other's cup and vice versa. This is the beginning of a draining relationship that might not end well.

Love and care for yourself first, then you will be able to love and care for another. It always starts with you. You cannot give what you don’t have, you only give from the abundance of what you have. If you are full of love, you will give love. If you are full of joy, you will give joy. If you are full of anger, you will give anger. If you are full of jealousy, you will give jealousy. If you are full of complaints, you will give complaints.